To begin with, I would like to say that marriage is institutionalized and socially acceptable form of cohabitation between men and women. As a fact, a natural need in procreation for people is ordered and implemented in marriage, which also is transformed by social conditions and culture. In my opinion, people want to meet the moral foundations of society, not to be alone, that is why they have unrealistically high expectations regarding marriage. Moreover, nowadays, the percentage of couples in developed countries, who are married is around 50-70% and continues to fall, as described in Opinion: No place for marriage in modern society. I am convinced that this data shows that people had unrealistically high expectations regarding marriage and disappointed in it. As a result, currently there is a tendency to reduce the number of people in a marriage, because today women have the opportunity to build a career and earn money on equal basis with men. In addition, marriage considers the need to “adjust” to the partner, the need to find a compromise, to get accustomed to the habits of each other and it is not so easy for both partners. However, people often forget about this and, as a consequence, have unrealistically high expectations regarding marriage.
It should be noted that the unrealistically high expectations regarding marriage come from the fact that marriage was originally created in the ancient pre-state entities (as custom) and states (as an institution, which often has a religious form) to regulate the issues related to the establishment and functioning of families, including issues related to children, as stated in Opinion: No place for marriage in modern society. It is essential to note that throughout history state often supported the family as the “cell of society”. This is due to the fact that family performs the actual work of raising children. I think that society and state impose on people the opinion that marriage is good and is a necessary attribute.
Derek Mullins. 2010. Opinion: No place for marriage in modern society. 21 September 2011. <http://utdailybeacon.com/opinion/columns/off-the-deep-end/2010/oct/13/no-place-marriage-modern-society/>