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Forgiveness and Reconciliation

Forgiveness is a mental or spiritual process of ceasing the feeling of resentment or anger against another person or against himself, due to a perceived offense, difference, errors or failures, or cease to demand punishment or restitution.

Forgiveness can be considered simply in terms of the feelings of the person who forgives, or in terms of the relationship between forgiving and the forgiven. It is usually granted without any expectation of compensation, and can occur without aware that forgiven (for example, a person can forgive another person who is dead or not seen for a long time). In other cases, forgiveness can come through offering some form of apology or restitution, or even just an apology, addressed to the victim, believing that he is able to forgive, according to Forgiveness (2010).
Forgiveness is the complete and utter oblivion of sins, from the heart, is sincere, generous and self-love does not hurt the offender. It does not impose humiliating conditions nor is it motivated by pride or ostentation. True forgiveness is known by actions, not words.
There are religions that include disciplines on the nature of forgiveness, and many of these disciplines provide an underlying basis for the various modern theories and practices of forgiveness.


In simple terms, forgiveness can only be addressed by extending it and the person subject to that gift, in terms of familiarity or friendship of the individuals involved, in some contexts can be given without the grievant compensation or ask something in return with or without response from the offender, or not aware of such action, as in the case of a deceased person or as a psychotherapeutic in the absence of the aggressor, in practical terms, you may need to offer an apology the offender, restitution, or even asking to be forgiven, in recognition of the error, to the knowledge of the victim which can be pardoned.


It is essential to:
1 . Be aware of what happened. Objectively analyze what happened and talking to those involved, for it is sometimes necessary to get help from a professional.
2 . To be humanitarian. Strive to see who has offended a person with strengths and weaknesses, avoid feeling superior or right to judge.
3 . Show humility. Set aside the pride that acts as a barrier to access to forgiveness. Forgiving yourself is to reflect on their own mistakes. This is to accept yourself and come to the conclusion that forgiveness is necessary for everyone.


4 . Keep calm. To remove your anger is a technique for managing stress. Make a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you peace and quiet may be an image related to the nature or someone you love.


5 . Avoid waiting until you’re offered an apology. The other person may think that it hurt you and can see things differently. Forgiving someone means to release all resentments and misunderstandings that have kept living in the past and the present. If offended asked for forgiveness, do not expect the other person to accept it fast. Let take time to analyze it.
6 . Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Studies have shown that people who forget, have more energy, better appetite and healthy sleep patterns. If you are not aware of the bitterness and resentment that may have the other person, then you will never forgive or leave things behind.
7 . Forgive yourself. Everything begins with self-forgiveness. To be forgiven and to forgive, you have to forgive yourself. For many people, self-forgiveness is the greatest challenge in doing, so it creates a higher level of confidence.


According to some, although this possibility seems less plausible, the word forgiveness comes or could also come from the verb forgive action to destroy, ruin, throw (away) or waste, disperse, or spread, waste, waste. Forgiveness is essential, as the forgiving, which is estimated to have suffered an injury, decides, at the request of the offender or spontaneously, not to feel resentment toward the offender or stop their anger or indignation against it, eventually resigning to seek a punishment or restitution, and choosing not to consider the offense in the future, so that the relationship between offender and offended forgiven are not affected. Also speaking in an improper sense of forgiving a punishment or an obligation, in the sense waive the requirement. In an improper sense one also speaks of forgiving debts or other obligations, according to What Does the Bible Say About Forgiveness? (2011).


Forgiveness is an important process in a person’s life. It can be also viewed as a decision of both, as it will signify the complete forgiveness. I think that reconciliation and forgiveness are not the same concept. People can be reconciled, but not forgiven. As well, people may forgive but choose not to reconcile. Everything depends on the point of view of a person who does not want or can not forgive another person. This way, he decides for himself the way the things will be.


According to Quotations by Subject: Forgiveness (2011)., “Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” Cherie Carter-Scott, “If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules”.

References

Forgiveness (2010). Retrieved July 28, 2011 from
http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/forgiveness/
Quotations by Subject: Forgiveness (2011). Retrieved July 28, 2011 from http://www.quotationspage.com/subjects/forgiveness/
What Does the Bible Say About Forgiveness? (2011). Retrieved July 28, 2011 from
http://christianity.about.com/od/whatdoesthebiblesay/a/bibleforgivenes.htm